Friends who follow this official account know that my twins are entering first grade this year.
After entering elementary school, there is a huge difference from the situation in kindergarten.
Children are very adaptable.
Now, half a semester later, they have become a pair of qualified primary school students.
But I'm still adjusting.
Why do you say that?
Because this was my first time taking care of twin elementary school students, my previous experience was zero.
Learn everything from scratch.
A while ago, the most frequently asked question from my friends who consulted me was whether it is better for twins to be in the same class or in separate classes.
I have also gone through an ideological struggle on this issue.
Later, after reading information, asking friends, thinking deeply, and all kinds of "deep deliberation", we finally reached a consensus with the two children after many discussions: they are in the same class.
Regarding twins going to school, under the current educational situation, it is best for them to be in the same class in kindergarten.
In the lower grades of elementary school, it is best to be in the same class.
Some schools have different management and will reclassify students in senior grades. This kind of school is best for twins.
In the upper grades of primary school, it is more appropriate for twins to be in separate classes.
Here, I will give you a survey data sheet made by a twin mother for your reference.
As shown below:
This data is very intuitive and is based on actual survey conditions.
However, the data at the primary school level cannot express subjective wishes. is forced to choose.
Because many schools do not give parents and children the opportunity to choose regarding class placement.
However, what I want to share today is not about being in the same class, but about homework.
I have said so much before, but I want to say that when the twins enter elementary school for the first time, we have to think about and solve many more things than the children.
Parents need more preparation and adaptation.
Just being in the same class has already made me do a lot of homework.
Now, after all my efforts, my two children are in the same class as I wished.
Then here comes the new problem, which is to do homework!
Twins in the same class have exactly the same homework, which is indeed more convenient, but it also requires more parent-child interaction.
Homework needs to be done in sync. Two children must do the same listening, speaking, reading and writing once each. What should parents do?
At the same time, their small actions and mutual influence together also follow.
Yes, the opposite of twins cooperating with each other is interfering with each other.
Doing homework together, quiet for less than two minutes.
Look where I wrote
Let me see how you wrote it
You took my eraser
I took your ruler
Put your books in my schoolbag
Put my notebook in your document bag
Your legs are stretched too far to touch me
My feet are dangling and I kick you
…
All kinds of small frictions arise one after another.
In fact, these small problems are not big problems.
But the problem is: they have all kinds of extraneous things, which are all wasted time.
There were a lot of people talking, and time passed really quickly.
In the friction, time slips away quietly, and the quality of the work is greatly compromised.
Moreover, the interference also affects concentration.
Therefore, it is definitely not possible for two children to do homework together. They must have their own separate place.
The twins cannot sit together to do homework, and the first priority is to separate.
But how to divide it?
Each person is in a room, and each writes his or her own story, but there are problems.
In the critical period of first grade of elementary school, the characteristic of homework is that it requires parents to accompany it.
Let them figure it out, that's the dream.
Because they don't know much about literacy, they need help reading the questions.
Especially for math homework, even if the questions have pinyin, parents need to help read it once before they can understand it thoroughly.
One calls mom.
Half a minute later, that one was also calling mom.
There will be emotion in the tone. Even if there is no emergency, shout urgently.
The bigger problem is that at least 60% of primary school homework in Chinese and English requires listening, reading and memorizing.
These listening and reading memorization require taking videos, recording, uploading, and clocking in.
Children cannot do it independently without company.
Moreover, all assignments must be signed.
If you don't accompany your child to listen and read it three times, the parent's signature will be too perfunctory.
In the long run, this is actually detrimental.
So, when the two children are doing homework in different rooms, the mother needs to be available.
No matter what kind of "tiger" mother, the tiger body must also listen to instructions.
The figure of the tiger mother, echoing the shouts of the two babies, shuttled between the two rooms.
Nana floats in and out again and again.
The corridor is full of my little steps.
After experiments, the twins did their homework in separate rooms. At least in the first grade of elementary school, doing homework in separate rooms would be very hectic.
So how to arrange it?
I recently gathered both children together in the living room.
A desk is arranged near the dining room.
Another desk is placed near the balcony.
After testing, the effect is good.
This distance will neither interfere with each other nor distract.
The writing part can be completed quietly and independently in one go.
For the listening and reading part, they each hold tools. As long as I sit on the sofa, I can dictate to two people at the same time, play recordings for two people, and listen to the low-decibel reading sounds of two people at the same time.
If there is any problem, I will step over it in two steps and provide immediate guidance.
The other one, when he looked up, saw each other and his mother, he no longer panicked and shouted anxiously.
in addition
The coffee table in the living room is the most useless thing.
You can replace it with a study table, not a desk for homework, but a desk like an art class.
If the twins have issues that need to be discussed together, or they need to write handwritten newspapers, draw pictures, etc., or if they need to help each other with homework, they can complete it on this table.
If you have twins at home, you can transform the living room into a place for them to study and communicate.
Not close, but not far apart either.
Twins were born to play together, learn together, and grow up together.
They are more adaptable than single-born children, adapting to living and learning with another person, adapting to acceptance, adapting to tolerance, and adapting to waiting when parents or teachers can't take care of it all.
Therefore, at least in primary school, the growth and learning of twins cannot be completely separated.
Even in junior high school, as long as they don't live on campus, they still have to study and communicate with each other.
It's not that when they grow up and don't need their parents to accompany them, they can just do their homework separately.
It's that they adapt to the presence of another person, do not interfere, and are not disturbed. This is the healthiest and most practical way to get along.
Twins have natural advantages. Parents need good guidance from an early age, and the older they get, the more worry-free they will be.
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