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We finally finished watching this highly acclaimed British comedy: "Sex Education 2" overnight.
The name may seem obscene, but it is actually a serious sex education film for adolescents with a well-established reputation. It is an original production and all eight episodes of the new season have been released online. Each episode focuses on a complex but difficult-to-speak issue related to sex or emotions among adolescent men and women. Douban 9.1, it is definitely a masterpiece in the field of sex and love.
The story takes place in "Model" High School in the UK. The male protagonist Otis's parents are a pair of divorced sex and relationship counselors. In the first season, Otis and his friend Maeve team up to open a secret "sex consultation room" on campus to solve various sexual doubts for adolescent boys and girls. for example:
• I like to masturbate with fruits, am I a pervert?
• During a relationship, what should you do if one party wants to turn on the lights and the other party wants to turn them off?
• Why does my vagina “spasm” at critical moments?
The newly released second season is more about the intimate relationship difficulties faced by Otis and his friends. Although the plot direction is not very popular with old fans, it still received rave reviews:
Although the bloody index has soared this season, it still maintains a healing and heart-warming background. The look and feel is similar to the drama version of "Pink to the Rescue". @糯木
It's cool and warm. Everyone has different issues, but they are all doing their own thing. @
Young people around the world are experiencing the same body anxiety and sexual confusion. @Yet again
It makes me feel what it is like to grow up as a normal person. @南游一
Both ridiculous and sincere, innocent and obscene. @千亿
Sex is both a social topic and a psychological issue. In a seemingly sexually liberated society, sexual repression still exists. @24pseudo-academic female warrior
How "brilliant" and "bold" is this show? (Note, there are spoilers below)
First of all, the beginning of each episode is basically a variety of large-scale images, which is very unsuitable for viewing in the office. Everyone has to cover their computers when collecting materials:
This school is also full of the retro flavor of “American rebellion” that we remember.
The students made an "artistic adaptation" of Shakespeare's stage play. The actors wore "vagina" models and danced various connotative dances (look at other people's high schools):
Under the label of "sex", "Study Room" more expresses the common confusion in adolescence – how to deal with broad and profound issues such as sexual relationships, abortion, coming out, slut shaming, campus discrimination, and identity.
For example, Otis is always troubled by "erections" anytime and anywhere, but he is unable to have sex with his girlfriend. He suspects that it is because he masturbates too frequently:
For example, Otis' biological father Remy is a "sex addict." Like all addictive behaviors, "sex addiction" can also cause great and unknown pain. While he needs to find more sex, he is also suffering emotional torture.
When his wife Jean was forced to leave him because of his repeated infidelity, he humbly said, "I also want to be a good father."
Yes, this show discusses a lot of things related to sex.
These things may be happening around you, but no one wants to talk about them.
Even in a more sexually open society, intimacy and confusion about sex remain under-discussed.
And "Study Room" is a wedge. It is full of energy and desire. It also encourages exploration and full communication, criticizes slut shaming, advocates respect for LGBT people and transgender people, and values equal relationships with mutual understanding.
This is why we recommend you watch this drama.
It confronts "how to satisfy both parties in sex" – a question that everyone is curious about.
The male protagonist Otis always has trouble getting hard when facing his partner. In order to make his girlfriend Ola happy, he learned a fingering technique called "clock technique".
But he learned it so poorly, "it was like dialing a phone from the 1920s."
In order not to hurt him, Ola had to pretend to have an orgasm, and gradually began to resist having sex with Otis.
Otis was devastated when he accidentally learned the truth. He went to talk to a friend and demonstrated his "clock fingering" technique with an orange.
Then his friend told him: "No oranges are alike."
Otis fell into the trap of "standard answers". In sexual relationships, there is no one-size-fits-all method, and applying rigid formulas will not please the other person. If we cannot express our needs and troubles openly and honestly, and our partners do not have the opportunity to reflect, adjust and try, it will be difficult to have a harmonious and beautiful sex life.
When Otis finally realized that while he was studying "technology", he had ignored Ola's own feelings. At this moment, the two began to understand each other and ease their relationship.
It popularizes various types of intimate relationships, such as what asexuality and sexless marriage are.
A girl named Florence felt that she was out of tune with her peers because she had no interest in sex, and even suspected that she was defective.
But the counselor and Otis's mother told her: Even if we are not interested in sex, it does not affect our personality integrity, and there is no need to feel inferior or anxious about it.
"Asexual" is a sexual minority group that "does not have any sexual attraction to any gender." In a BBC report, Chinese researchers estimated that there are 10 million asexual people in China.
"Asexuality" is akin to an identity. It is a biological state, not a choice. But "sexless marriage" is another concept. It refers to a marriage between two partners who promise not to have sex. Forming a sexless marriage may be due to loss of function due to illness/accident, or a "formal marriage" due to social pressure.
There is also an example of "sexless marriage" in the play. The principal’s wife told the counselor that her husband had refused to have sex for a long time and that she “had not had sex with her husband for 6 years.”
In fact, this type of "sexless marriage" exists in large numbers in Chinese families.
Pan Suiming, a professor of sociology at Renmin University of China, has this data in the 2000 sex survey results: People aged 20 to 64 in China who are married or already living together (collectively referred to as "couples") were still living together at the time of the survey. Among men and women, more than a quarter (28.7%) have not had sex once a month, and 6.2% have not had sex in the past year.
If this has happened to you, we would like to say that no matter what kind of intimate relationship you choose, full communication is extremely necessary.
In this drama, with the encouragement of the counselor, the dean’s wife decided not to wait anymore, but took the initiative to leave this lifeless relationship. She said: “If you love someone, you must let the other person understand your feelings. Feelings”.
It also teaches ignorant teenagers how to judge whether they like boys or girls?
Or Otis's girlfriend Ola, because she had erotic dreams twice, dreaming of passionate kissing with Lily (a girl), and when she woke up, she began to doubt her sexual orientation.
In fact, when you are not sure about your sexual orientation, "sex" itself is a way to test love – through kissing Lily, Ola finally confirmed that he is bisexual (pansexual):
“Pansexuality is where you’re attracted to the person, not their gender. It’s about your connection to that person, not their genitals.”
In real life, it was cool to be open about her sexual orientation – besides, at that time, she was still dating Otis.
Are you sure you are heterosexual? It's actually difficult to answer this question accurately.
The word sexual orientation ( ) is actually a similar concept to sexual preference ( ), which refers to a person's preference for a specific gender (or other characteristics) in love and sexual desire. Sexual orientation may just be a trait, a trait like hair color, the size of the tip of your nose, or the shape of your fingernails. Whether they are sexual minorities or heterosexuals, they are all the same and have the same share of things to like and things to dislike.
After all, we are on the way to pursue true love. True love has nothing to do with gender or existing relationships. Once you meet true love, you must bravely admit it, because missing it is a pity.
It also discusses “What should you do if you are molested/sexually assaulted in public”?
Amy, a high school student, was sexually harassed by a perverted man on her way to school on the bus. However, she did not call the police or confront him. Instead, she pretended to be calm and got out of the car alone.
Amy, who has an "avoidant personality", is overly friendly and even apologized to the pervert who scratched her from behind: "I'm sorry."
But the trauma of sexual harassment has not left her. Amy has nowhere to talk, and her mother doesn't really care about her. Amy would cry alone in her room when she thought about it.
After her friend Maeve learned about the incident, she went to the police with her. But Amy has been worried about whether she is "making a fuss out of a molehill" and even feels that "she may be at fault."
What's more serious is that Amy developed symptoms of PTSD: she didn't dare to take the bus because of panic; she had visions of perverted men on different occasions… This also affected her daily life and normal interactions with her boyfriend.
Fortunately, her friends have been by her side to support, understand, and help her.
Several girls also decided to accompany Amy on the bus together to help her get out of the shadows and overcome her fear.
Friends told her: Don't run away or close off your inner feelings. Only by acknowledging the pain and facing it bravely can you finally overcome the pain. "It's just a broken bus."
This scene is really too hot!
Who doesn't want to be such a girl? Although they usually fight, are jealous, and look down on each other, they still unite in moments like this.
"The New Yorker" commented that "Sex Education" is "one of the freshest, funniest, and most humane depictions of teenage life ever put on screen."
Some people think that "Study Hall" seems to simplify the complexity of real relationships. Many people in the drama had a sudden enlightenment and enlightenment just because of "one or two sentences". After a "British drama run", they found themselves.
But some people say that it is this simple "one or two sentences" that no one has ever told us, so we need it – in the traditional family concept, people always seem to expect you to "have neither desires nor children." Full house."
For anyone, sex can be a lifelong source of confusion and a source of identity anxiety and pain in intimate relationships. From this perspective, everything in "Sex Study Room" seems to be related to sex, as well as family, friendship, and love.
Written by: Chi Yao, Ms. Feng, Haide, Jianghu Bian
