Some readers have left messages to talk about their imperfect marriage life: When I got married to him, my parents didn’t agree, so I chose him at all costs.

However, after we got married, I made a huge concession for the sake of the family and became a housewife. I did all the housework, but he began to dislike me more and more.

I think my skin has become worse and my body has become obese. What is wrong with me?

This woman is both wrong and right. Yes, her life has been delayed by someone who is not worthy of it. She can obviously have a better life. The fault lies in not being ruthless enough and trusting others too much, which resulted in such an outcome. After this story, I would like to tell my friends that if you want a perfect marriage and a comfortable marriage, sometimes the more cruel a woman is, the more perfect the family will be. 01. They are "ruthless" about housework. There is such a family in "PIGGY BOOK". Mother Zhu has two sons, but her husband never helps her with the work, and everything in the house falls on Mother Zhu. Every morning, her husband and son are like urging them: "Daughter-in-law, hurry up, is breakfast ready?" "Mom, hurry up, can you have breakfast?" After they left for work and school, Mother Zhu did not rest. First of all, Mop the floor, do the laundry, make the bed, wash the carpet, and then go to work first. After Zhu's mother got off work, she immediately went to the kitchen to prepare ingredients for dinner, but her husband and son still urged her: "Daughter-in-law, hurry up, is dinner ready?" "Mom, I'm so hungry, can I eat quickly?" ''After they had a delicious meal, they spread out on the sofa and watched TV together. Mother Zhu calmly started washing dishes, cleaning the kitchen, and ironing clothes in the kitchen. On a seemingly ordinary day, Mother Zhu couldn't bear it anymore. Due to the pressure brought by the family, they chose to run away from home. The father and son, who were used to being taken care of, suddenly lost the care of Zhu's mother. It was like they had no backbone, and the family was in chaos. They tried to do housework, and then they realized that there was How tiring. First of all, they know how difficult it is for Mother Zhu, and they also miss her first. They all pray that Mother Zhu can return quickly and agree to take the initiative to take on all the housework. Mother Zhu is the reflection of most families, and the women in the family have a lot of money. It is taken for granted that the man takes over everything, and the man becomes the hands-off shopkeeper. You think it is very simple for the family to look clean and tidy, but in fact it is the result of the woman's hard work. Marquez once said: "Compared with the complexity of marriage, Disasters, ordinary trivial troubles, are even more difficult to hide.

"Only when men and women are equally responsible for housework, can they understand each other's difficulties, cherish each other more, and the sense of family perfection will increase. My friend Sister Li has been married for ten years and has two sons. Now she is forty, but she looks… Very young. I once asked her what skin care products she used to keep her skin so smooth and rosy? She replied that she didn’t use any skin care products. It wasn’t until I went to her house for dinner that I realized that it was not skin care products at all, but hers. Mentality and her husband’s control. When Sister Li was cooking in the kitchen, her husband was nearby to help cut vegetables; while she was washing dishes, he was cleaning the pond; her son was also helping, pouring water for us and cutting fruits. At home Everyone is doing their best to run the family, which seems very harmonious. It is mentioned in the book "Close Relationship" that when a daughter-in-law takes on all or most of the housework, her sense of family perfection is negative, and vice versa. Of course. This is also the reason why most women propose to break up and choose to break up. Everything is borne by one person. If you are not wronged too much, why choose to break up? If you think about it, you must learn to go it alone. If you If you are cruel to your fault, life will be cruel to you. 02 Be cruel to your career. Sometimes, we see many women who have been hurt, feeling sad and helpless. They also want to leave the miserable marriage, but they don’t have enough money, and they don’t The courage to live alone. I once met a woman who writes, called Qingniao. It can be said that her jokes are very inspirational. When I was in college, Qingniao met her boyfriend, worked after graduation, and when she reached the age, she got married and had children. But no one took care of the children. Both of them need work. Her husband advised her: "Why don't you go to the field and go home to take care of your children? I will support you." "Qingniao is a little reluctant, but in order to take care of her children, she may choose to go out to work and take care of her husband and raise children at home. At first, the family was very complete, cooking every day, taking care of the children, and waiting for her husband to come home from work. Due to the reduction in income, Qingniao She has to think carefully about anything she buys. One time she went shopping with her friends and fell in love with a bag. The price was too expensive, so she bought it for the sake of dignity. After returning home, when her husband knew the cost, he first blamed her: " You stay at home every day, why would you buy such a good bag? Can't carry it out either. "This sentence was like a needle, pricking her heart with numbness and pain. But Qingniao did not give up, but wanted to find ways to make money so that he could feel confident in this family, so he began to learn from writing and realize it through words. In order to achieve financial independence, she gets up at four o'clock every day to write articles. After writing, which happens to be the time for her children to get up, she first spends time with her children and does housework.

When the child takes a nap at noon, she uses this time to revise the article. At night, when the child goes to bed, she reads first. With long-term efforts, her writing is getting better and better, and her monthly manuscript fee is almost the same as her husband's monthly salary. Don't believe in the pie that a man draws for you. Those promises brought by marriage will only disappear over time. No one will take care of you, and you can only save yourself. Only when you are financially independent can you live with dignity and confidence. No matter who you are in front of, you can straighten your waist and make others admire and admire you. You don't need to make a lot of money, but you must have the ability to support yourself, not only for yourself, but also for your children. 03 Those who are "cruel" to men say that women are made of water, weak and weak. Not only are they soft, but their hearts are also soft. However, if you are soft-hearted and have no bottom line, it is a problem. If you are too soft-hearted, you are weak and give others the right to harm you at will. There is already a group. A mother recorded several videos and posted them to the group. The content showed that she was injured by her husband, with bruises all over her body and her palms still wrapped in gauze. She confided that her husband loved to drink and would beat her every time he drank. There was no way, so she asked people in the group for help. When someone asked her, why did she break up with such a person? She always found many reasons not to break up. Her child was three years old and lost his father when he was too young, so she couldn't bear to let him go. When her husband didn't drink, he was actually very kind to them. Every time she wanted to break up, her husband would kneel down, and she would soften her heart and forgive him. What is most unbearable for us is that the harm caused to us by the people around us may not be forgotten for the rest of our lives. The reason for understanding is more of a reluctance. In fact, all this means that the heart is too soft and there is no bottom line. Li Mei, a servant, said: "Love that is too soft-hearted is like hanging a wind chime with silk thread on the edge of a cliff. It seems harmonious, but if you are not careful, you will fall through fire and water." Whether it is love or anything else, there is always bullying and fear. Evil factors, only when both parties are equal and straighten their bodies, can the marriage be stable. Don't think that your failure can win a man's affection. For them, your dedication and accommodation are like one person's acting, and he will not take it to heart at all. Therefore, the key to a woman and a couple being better off is to be "ruthless". Of course, women are cruel, and they should be cruel to the situation, not unlucky. You are cruel not to endanger others, but to protect yourself.