Everyone wants to live with their loved one at the right time, and who doesn’t want that? And lesbians, the combination of two girls, know how to improve the quality of life in novel ways of getting along, and quickly live together (also called u-). Today we decided to sneak into the apartment of three pairs of lesbian lovers abroad (they are really in love) and see how their cohabitants act like dogs! (Silently receiving the dog food~) Why are other people’s houses so loving?
Three Les couples living in New York
Answered some of the questions we have been discussing
Questions about living together
What is it like to live with your girlfriend?
Is it happy? Is it painful?
Still disorganized, or nothing at all?
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Alison (27) and Beth (36)
&Beth (hereinafter referred to as A and B)
Living in Slope Park, Brooklyn
How long were you in a relationship before you decided to move in together? How long have you lived together now?
A: We have been living together for a year now, and we decided whether to live together about a year ago.
How did your friends and family react when they found out you were living together?
A: I think my parents must be very happy for us to live together, because my parents really like Beth, and my dad is also an open-minded father. He said to me: "All I care about is whether you can be taken care of well." He also saw that Beth really loved me and could take good care of me.
What are you most worried and anxious about?
A: I only worry about one thing, if I clean, what about Beth? She had to pay the rent for cleaning, so she laughed and stopped talking~
Were there any surprises that surprised you after you moved in together?
B: I think what I didn’t expect is that Alison brought creativity to the home, and there was a very calm atmosphere in the home, which I really enjoyed.
A: I think another thing is that you can only eat some meat rolls alone on a single night, but we often watch some American TV series and eat some snacks together. I like this method very much.
A: I never thought about it before. It wasn’t until we moved together that I realized a problem. I think when you think of yourself as a real lesbian, you have a double responsibility. I think what I want to do most is to protect myself, especially Beth, but I know there are people who can do better and stronger than us.
For a while, there was no one around except us, which made me very nervous. At night, it freaked me out. I wonder if someone did break into our house, would it be just me and Beth? How do we attack him, how do we drive him away? This didn't prepare me at all. When you love someone enough, you become a protector, so we have to switch between male and female at any time, I just think, but I don't know if it's right. I just wanted to protect us and show my strength in protecting Beth.
A: Do you want to tell them how we protect ourselves and this family? We have our own protection measures. Just in case, I guess we shouldn't tell them there's a trap~
B: Yes, don't tell them about these traps! We have many weapons, one is…
A: …full of flashlights! I would say this is a chrome plated material? The silver one is definitely very powerful and can bring some damage, and it has a double-action button inside!
B: Do you know what other magic weapons we have? A bat. And it has Alison's name engraved on it. Maybe this will leave a mark with your name on it – and give you motivation when you're exhausted.
A: The most important thing is to increase the defensive function. We put them near the bed so if we are sleeping and someone comes? You go get the bat, and I'll get the flashlight.
B: That’s great~!
You city folk are really good at playing! ! !
Okay, so what are your favorite things to do now that you’ve moved in together?
B: What I like most is cooking and eating together. We would discuss what we wanted to eat together, and then we could cook and eat together.
A: And watching movies all the time!
Give some advice to lesbians who want to live together~ What should they pay attention to?
B: There are only two points I want to say. The first thing is to discuss and confirm the bottom line of your principles before conflicts occur, instead of trying to adjust after they happen. Also, make your cohabitation life full of humor and everything will get better.
A: Initially Beth was already living here and everything was fine when I moved in. How do we make this house our home? How do we change those things to make this home fit in with us? I felt comfortable talking to her and I knew she wanted us both to create a paradise here. We change each other, which is great. It felt like an advanced integration process, and it felt like home.
Caroline (32) and Jess (27)
& Jess (hereinafter referred to as C and J)
Live in Wood Queens
How long ago did you decide to move in together?
C: About a year and a half?
J: It seems so. We have been together for a year and a half.
How do your family and friends react to you moving in together?
J: Yeah, I don’t think everyone around us is pretending to be happy to be with us.
C: Yes, it is actually the same, but it feels very unreal. Many times we meet! They all say hello: Hey! Sao Nian!
What are you most nervous or worried about?
C: I don’t know. It seems that there is really nothing to worry about, and I won’t worry about that.
J: For me, my biggest concern is the space of the house, and I really want to find a suitable apartment. However, houses in good areas in New York City are very expensive, so they were not a consideration for us.
What unexpected challenges have you faced in your lives? An unexpected surprise?
C: We use the allowance to decorate our home. This doesn’t mean that my design skills are bad, it just means that I like to see new changes in the entire living room and home every time I go home. It feels really good.
J: So are you satisfied with the renovations I made to my home during the two days you were gone? Ha ha. In fact, I really did a lot.
C: Yes, I love it very much. The only thing is every time I can't find something, because I'm a weird person who puts things in a weird place and always think it's still there. Do you remember that hair dye last time? I asked you, "Did you see me buy hair dye?" and you said, "Yeah, I know, but I bought it a year ago. It's been sitting in the trash for months." Already."
What are the things that you can't stand when living together (do you set the terms of your life?)
J: What bothers me the most is that we don’t have the same shoe size, so we can’t wear each other’s shoes. Since we all have similar shoe tastes, there is no way I would accept my 10-foot size being transformed into a 7-inch desert boot.
C: Let me borrow any of my clothes that you think looks good. But what I just want to say is? You can wear my clothes, but can you put them back every time you wear them?
J: I always say that we just need to keep borrowing and exchanging things.
What are your favorite things to do while living together?
C: Yes, this is also a part of our lives. I get excited every time I talk about this topic. Even before that, we were deeply moved: we collect things from each other!
J: Yes, like our book. I still remember the first time I went to your house and I noticed that we had a lot of the same books. And I also love hoarding my favorite books.
C: Just in case!
J: We keep one of our bookshelves in every room!
Do you have any advice or advice for other lesbians who are about to move in together?
J: My advice is: if your relationship is not going well, living together won't help. I've made this mistake before too. But after we got together, after getting along, things got better and better. The only problem we had was the small issue of who should do it first in life (laughing).
C: Yes, yes, dear, you think. If you both have emotional problems, then living together will definitely amplify those problems. Therefore, you must carefully consider living together unless your relationship is already very stable.
Jess and Shannon
Jess & (hereinafter referred to as J and S)
Lives on Flatbush Avenue, Brooklyn
How long ago did you decide to move in together?
S: I decided to move in together about a year ago; our lease was about to expire, so it became more logical.
J: I don’t want to live with cats.
S: We have been living together for…almost four months? It was Jess's guess, but it definitely wasn't right!
How do your friends or family react to you moving in together?
S: I feel like it’s our two rights to move in together, and I’m not trying to get everyone to support it.
J: Really?
S: Not because of you! Just the idea alone, generally speaking, doing a big move quickly in New York is a bit taboo. We've only been together for a year and we don't know each other well enough yet.
J: What did they say?
S: You are not them, it is concrete. Some people I know think that I should not decide to live together so quickly and hastily. They just look at these things from their perspective.
J: Do your parents think so too? Do your relatives think so too? Like your aunt?
S: Yes. She said we should just wait. But she is a very old-school, traditional person. This is what everyone said when I asked them what they suggested. But you have your own life, your own way of living and the people you want to accompany you. I'm going to do what I want to do. Now, they are super supportive of me!
J: To me no one really cares about that.
What are you most nervous or worried about?
S: My biggest worry is that there will be a negative impact on our relationship, that neither of us will like each other anymore, and that we break up. This is the worst case scenario!
J: Yeah, I think so too. I have mysophobia myself. I don't like walking barefoot in my house unless the floors are clean and clear. I have a lot of little things, and I'm afraid there will be more and more. Moreover, I am very domineering.
S: I'm worried about personal space because I really like being alone and doing my own thing in my own corner. I was worried that our little details and quirks would hurt each other, which is why we decided to live in a two-bedroom apartment. Our second bedroom is used as Jess's guitar practice room, and we have a big living room, bedroom kind of thing. This way we have our own space. This alleviates a lot of our worries.
J: Personal space is a big issue for me. Okay, I admit that I didn’t pay much attention to life when I was with others before.
S: I've never lived with a partner, I've always been dating.
J: That’s why I can come up with ways to balance my personal space with yours~ I didn’t realize this problem before, and it’s not good. It's a strange way to live. This was a turning point for me, now I know how to let people have their personal space.
Have you faced any unexpected challenges in your lives? An unexpected surprise?
S: Our biggest challenge is around the plates.
J: It’s because you don’t wash the dishes!
S: I hate washing dishes! But I do those too, just with the same division of labor. I don’t like washing an extra plate~
J: We're trying to solve this dishwashing problem.
S: It’s the dishwasher that will solve all our problems. Hahahahaha~
What is your favorite thing to do when you live together?
J: She’s really good at cooking. She can cook delicious dishes and I am very healthy now because of this.
S: We’ll share each other’s clothes! This is lesbian's benefit! We also basically have the same shoe sizes. My feet are a bit big, but I can force myself to wear your shoes and walk through them~
