Do you eat with colleagues?
I asked my colleagues and friends around me, and more people told me yes, eating alone is a bit unsociable and lonely.
Netizen Xiao Wu posted that he was criticized by his boss for not eating with his colleagues.
She said that she was used to being alone and thought that just completing her work would be enough. Why was it not mandatory to eat with her colleagues?
Thinking from the boss's perspective, he hopes that employees will be united. Eating is also a way to integrate into the group, and don't let colleagues feel that they are distanced from you.
Netizens also started a heated discussion. Some people think that everyone has different tastes and preferences, they don’t eat together and they don’t fight every day, so they are not gregarious, and the boss is too lenient.
Of course, some people think that the boss is right. Employees must be united and do their jobs well, and they must also embody a spirit.
In fact, I don’t think this should be a hard requirement. Employees still have freedom to eat, but we always say that people can’t help themselves in the workplace. In addition to your job, your social skills and emotional intelligence are also very important.
If you regard lunch with colleagues as just a meal to fill your stomach, you are still too young. If you treat her as an effective social setting, then it's a valuable meal.
Work lunch is a great time for you to expand your network, hear company insider information, and team up, so having lunch with your colleagues is definitely a technical job.
Colleague lunch = socializing
When a new employee has just joined the company, usually the old employees will take them to lunch together. This is a good time to integrate into the team.
May I ask where you are from? what is your horoscope? Do you eat spicy food? If you find a common ground, you can quickly find your "sister", and the foundation of friendship between colleagues will be laid.
During the meal, you can hear all kinds of company gossip and insider information. This is free information.
A friend of mine was having dinner with his colleagues when a colleague revealed that the company was going to compete for a supervisor. He made preparations a month in advance and was finally promoted.
This wave of social networking is definitely worth it!
From the people who eat, you can tell which people in the company are closer, who are easier to talk to, and which colleagues you don't dislike and are worthy of close friendship with.
China attaches great importance to dining table culture, and you may solve many problems with a small lunch party.
If you want to ask a colleague for a small favor but can't find a suitable opportunity, then lunch is the best time.
Choose a suitable restaurant and help her get a seat. These small favors become a window between you. Next, if you ask for your request, the other party will not refuse it.
This is better than the depressing cold and serious office scene.
Therefore, smart people treat every meal as an effective social interaction, which is absolutely worth it.
People with high emotional intelligence will not deliberately be unsociable
People who don't fit in at lunch are likely to be alienated in other situations as well.
Yan Rujing once said this on Qipai.com: Whether you fit in with others or not is a choice.
No one is born unsociable. It only depends on whether you want to integrate into this group and whether you want to realize your own value through this group.
The new intern in the company is a very good person and established a good relationship with his colleagues on the first day.
When eating, he would help prepare meals together and reserve seats in advance. Sometimes he would thoughtfully buy drinks for everyone. He would even give everyone a tissue after finishing the meal.
Colleagues all think that the little girl can do something good, so they are very friendly to her. They will help her if she doesn't understand something at work, and they are happy to teach her.
The main reason is that the little girl has a sweet mouth. After troublesome others, she will always say thank you and sometimes give her a candy to express her gratitude.
She became the fastest among all interns to become a full-time employee. In addition to her personal abilities, her social and emotional intelligence helped her a lot.
Therefore, people with truly high emotional intelligence will not deliberately be unsociable. They eat alone and with a group of people. There is no need for colleagues to have opinions on you because of this trivial matter.
Dinner etiquette
You think that everything will be fine if you eat together. Failure to do the following dinner etiquette will make you more troublesome, so focus on it!
1 After lunch, I forgot to pay. I hope everyone will be conscious and take the initiative to transfer money to colleagues who help you advance payment, instead of having to be reminded every time, which is really offending.
2 Wipe out the loose ends. When many people were in AA, they agreed to 12.5, but she would only turn to 12. They would also say that you can't be so stingy. Anyway, there are so many people who don't need this little money. You will only be isolated for this kind of behavior. Since AA, just give the money honestly and don't be greedy for cheap!
3. Picky taste. This scenario is established. When ordering food, please neutralize other people's tastes, instead of being selfish and only ordering what you like, and always being picky about whether the food ordered by others is not delicious, which will ruin your popularity.
4 Love to gossip. Although gossiping over lunch is a must, pay attention to the occasion. Some people are so arrogant that they act as if your table is the only one eating, and they talk bad things about the colleagues next door. In the blink of an eye, you may find someone else eating at the table next to you. Do you think it's embarrassing or not?
So don’t gossip about everyone, and please pay attention to the occasion and volume when speaking.